“For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life because of Me and the gospel will save it.”
If you lose your life for Jesus then you are a winner. This is one of the paradoxes in the Bible. If you lose your life you will save it, but if we want to save your life you will lose it.
How can that be? It is simple. We were born to eternity. Our existence will go on past this life, but the state and condition of that existence is the question. Without Jesus our life will be one of eternal death. It is unthinkable and truthfully unimaginable. With Jesus our life will be one that is eternally lived in the presence of Jesus. We will be filled with the joy of the Lord at every turn.
You cannot save yourself no matter how hard you try. And you cannot lose your life if you lose it for Jesus.