If you are a wife, you must put your husband first. Even if he opposes our message, you will win him over by what you do. No one else will have to say anything to him, because he will see how you honor God and live a pure life. Don't depend on things like fancy hairdos or gold jewelry or expensive clothes to make you look beautiful. Be beautiful in your heart by being gentle and quiet. This kind of beauty will last, and God considers it very special. Long ago those women who worshiped God and put their hope in him made themselves beautiful by putting their husbands first. For example, Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her true children, if you do right and don't let anything frighten you.
1 Peter 3: 1 - 6
Years ago a normal part of the wedding vows included the bride vowing to “love, honor and obey!” It was pretty well accepted that the husband was the “head” of the home and his wife functioned in her place under him.
That, God designed arrangement has all but disappeared in the western world. We have decided to redefine everything! A wife being obedient to her husband is quite simply offensive today! But why does the Bible talk about a wife obeying her husband?
Consider this: The marriage relationship was designed by God to provide us with a vivid picture of the relationship of Christ and His Bride! If you are part of the Bride of Christ and you want that relationship to be one of mutual respect and equal responsibility and even authority then you are quite confused! The Bride of Christ obeys Jesus. There is no other way.
Even though a woman should obey her husband as the Church does Jesus, a husband has the unbelievably sacrificial task of loving His wife as Christ loves His Bride! That means he lives his life for her and seeks to sacrifice everything, even his own life for her! God’s idea of an ideal wife is one who gives herself completely to and obeys someone who has sacrificed his whole life for her! Now you tell me that won’t work!
“Lord Jesus, how foolish we have been in trying to change the way You want things to be on this earth! Help me today to see everything around me with Your eyes! Praise Your Holy Name forever! Amen.”